They're clear, satisfying, and let me get every idea or task out in one place to visualize. He will be a fully realized, independent, emotionally intact, whole person. He will have close male friends, some since childhood. His best qualities will include empathy, compassion, passion and integrity. He must be a spectacularly devoted, present, active, fully-engaged father. He will love me deeply, unconditionally, with his entire being, AS I AM RIGHT NOW. He will expect and want an active, vibrant, open, playful, imaginative and intimate physical life together.He will be grateful and aware that I am a fully realized, independent, emotionally intact, whole person. He will surround himself with people who challenge him, not who simply affirm him. He will love my daughter unconditionally and understand from the start that I will always choose her. He will understand and have deep, non-judgmental empathy for my enduring and relentless grief over the loss of my brother. He will have a complicated but strong relationship with his mother.
We both used to be negative about the prospect of finding love over 40, but now we know that it can be done and we have started a blog to help others through a serious of positive steps toward successfully finding a lasting love in their forties.
There’s a faith in loving fiercely the one who is rightfully yours especially if you have waited years and especially if part of you never believed you could deserve this loved and beckoning hand held out to you this way.
I am thinking of faith now and the testaments of loneliness and what we feel we are worthy of in this world.
It seems like we'd be in the best position possible to make excellent choices in our romantic lives as well. My Find-True-Love list: He will cherish, treasure and adore me, rightly feeling that he is the luckiest guy on the planet. That's what happened at my brother's memorial service.
Make a dating after divorce checklist I like lists. He will not need me to fill any black holes of need or repair any deep childhood wounds. I only want to love a person who makes that kind of mark on our world. He will neither have - nor voice - opinions about what I do with my hair. He will want desperately to marry me but will be willing to wait.