No one will send him aggressive commands to put this on, or take this off.In fact, he probably won’t get any messages at all.”But when you go online, it takes away your personality.That really courageous way that you approached her in the coffee shop. The way you smiled at her, or made her feel comfortable and warm. Instead, she sees your picture, compared side by side with a hundred pictures of other guys.After all, pretty girls are hit on all the time in real life. The only reason is because she has kids, or perhaps because she’s unattractive, or maybe she has some personal baggage.I’d say about 90% of the women on the dating websites I visit have kids. But dealing with the ex-husband who might be really possessive can be scary. I spent more time with the kid than I ever did with her. I didn’t have the time to learn about her, because I was too busy taking care of the kid. But when 90% of the girls online have kids, you’re basically relegating yourself to ONLY girls with kids.In my five years of being on dating websites, I’ve only gotten three messages that were initiated by women. When a girl joins a dating website, it’s a HUGE risk.
For the rest of your life, everything you do will be “creepy”. We men have to get over the fear of approaching a woman. We also have to think of something to say, and try not to be creepy, or sleazy, or weird, and say something magical, but keep it chill, and relaxing, and not seem too desperate, but try to somehow get her number without seeming stalker-ish.She might have been reading, or thinking, or dreaming, and then you had the guts and bravery to approach her and start a conversation. Dating websites try to make up for this by including lots of personality tests.But all of these tests are flawed, because different things matter to different people.Either they are very unattractive to me, or they have some kind of rude personality that turns guys off to them in real life. Occasionally, there are attractive single girls without kids who appear online.Lots of these girls put on their profile, “I’m a ***** and if you can’t handle it, then **** off! When this happens, the entire pool of guys starts messaging them things like, “How’s it goin?