No wonder me asking if we could be boyfriend/girlfriend freaked him out.The reason why I originally asked, is that people kept asking us, "Are you two boyfriend/girlfriend?But who knows what a girl you've known for a month and a half thinks a gf/bf relationship entails.I mean it's not like you have the same standards for a guy who's just a friend, a guy you're just starting to date, and a guy you're in a serious relationship with." Title is important to me because I'm not a girl who is into casual relationships or casual sex AT ALL.I am a loyal women and I think I at least deserve the decency of a title.
It was based on the thread regarding exclusivity vs bf/gf that I actually had to clarify things in my own dating situation. So I told him "yes, I want to be exclusive with you...does that mean I'm your gf and you're my bf? You need to see where he stands with being in a bf/gf situation and if his viewpoint is going to change 5 months from now.
I'm going to be as thorough as I can with my story, so please bear the length! This week was the first week we've been heavily making out and stuff. However, make sure you know if he wants a relationship. Just having a sexual relationship is not what i want either, very difficult to want to be with that person if they don't feel like you do. Some of the things he said are very out of touch like asking what it means to be bf/gf and how being bf/gf is a stop away from engaged. Also, how much relationship experience does he have? Stop trying to ruin a good thing by being obsessed with labels and titles. Go with the flow instead of turning into an act of Congress. A number of LSers in another post said that exclusive and bf/gf are not the same thing.
So last night, boy and I were flirting and playing grabass while playing pool. He likes you, you like him, you are dating only each other right now. I don't know if any said why and can't remember the title of the post.
The guy I'm seeing (it's been a little under 3 months) recently asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. You guys could be dating for 6 months and he may be complacent with just being exclusive.
If that's not what you want, you should settle for that.