Instead, be assertive with an "I statement"—"I feel hurt when you ignore me because it makes me feel like you're not taking into consideration what I have to say.
I feel I deserve an apology for the way you dismissed me yesterday at dinner; next time, could you please acknowledge me?
"Don't put the burden of your issues with her on him.FBI experts go through years of training for that," Reeves says. "Give him the chance to feel your absence from time to time," she says."He'll react by getting back into courting behavior and letting you know he appreciates you." Then, you can do something you both enjoy together, which allows you to create fun memories—and Giving silent treatment and withholding affection (especially sex) in order to get your way is juvenile and counterintuitive: Instead of reacting to you, your husband will likely retreat.Being passive-aggressive "is one of the most destructive forms of relationship communication— it creates a negative cycle that only gets worse and creates anger and resentment," Reeves explains.If you feel like your husband owes you an apology, don't make your feelings sound less important than they are (passive), and don't attack him (aggressive), Reeves says.