There’s a lot that can be done to keep your love fresh, despite the upsetting tension that anxiety can bring.
The Role of Childhood: You may have not had the easiest of childhoods.
And ya, those that prefer to float alone when others are hurting tend to float on their own when they are hurting in my world. I like phone calls during the day and to be told I'm being thought of. But it also doesnt have to be all drama, negativety, and the end is near either.
;) What comes a round truly does go around in that regard. I like to know that I matter and if I feel I don't due to a miscommunication then my world becomes an emotional turmoil. When I'm with a man I care about, I don't care if we just sit and chat or if we cuddle. I like it when a guy says he can't wait to be with me and is willing to add me into his activities such as his family life or gatherings with friends. If not, I feel left out and like he really doesn't care if I'm around. I've talked to counselors and lo and behold I'm a lonely person surrounded by people who love me. I can't harden my heart to the point of not caring if someone leaves me out of their life once they claim they care about me. True balance is some-thing allot of people strive for, and is hard to attain. And believe you me, as a sufferer of panic disorder for the last 30 years, I know how absolutely diffficult keeping on an even keel can be.
Changing your clingy ways isn’t just about giving your partner space, it’s also about creating space for yourself and distancing yourself from some of those driving, distressing emotions. If you stop being so clingy and your love interest remains elusive or continues to pull away, have the courage to move on. Just as the person you fall in love with deserves the chance to be part of a cohesive couple, so do you.
Realizing that your partner’s need for space isn’t unreasonable—that it’s good for you, too—can help you loosen your grip.
Somewhere in the middle is probably the sweet spot.
These are good indicators that you may be in the clingy zone. If your sweetheart is craving space, the signs include less eye contact, less physical touch, shallow or brief conversations and a “keep your distance” posture like crossed legs or arms. Sign up for a class, join a small group, or pursue a passion or talent that is yours and yours alone. A good rule of thumb is to match—not exceed—the energy, attention, and effort your partner is investing in your relationship.
When we’re convinced we’re not getting “enough” from a partner and we’re starving for more, it’s natural to become clingy. Feed your need—for conversation, companionship, affirmation, whatever—from more than one source.
Not only am I a worry wart but I'm high strung to top it off. I know that negative feelings and thoughts can do utter devastation to a person and, if that is true, then the opposite also has to be true.
Off topic: I really like reading the forums because I usually find the advice I've been looking for.